Monday Morning Momentum™: Focus + Humility + Questions = Momentum

Monday, May 19, 2008

Click here for an introduction to Monday Morning Momentum.

Focus + Humility + Questions = Momentumã

Let me check something out with you. Pretend for a moment that your friend, child, spouse, employee, or your boss says to you: “I would like to learn from you.  It would mean a lot to me if you would help me.” How would you feel?  My bet is that you feel good right now just thinking about the idea:  We all like to believe that we have something to offer those we care about.

People want to help us when we are humble enough to ask for help.

We demonstrate our curiosity when we seek assistance.  We telegraph to the world that we are on a search for new ways to do, see, and experience things.  In their book Character Strengths and Virtues, leading positive psychologists Martin Seligman, and Christopher Peterson point to research by psychologist Todd Kashdan of George Mason University that shows when people demonstrate curiosity, they learn more, are more engaged at work, and perform better academically.  Curiosity leads to better performance.

So, this week, let’s ask for help. Here’s our plan:

(1)    Think of two important areas in your life in which you could use some ideas, help, or input.

(2)    Write down a few questions you could ask people about these two critical areas.

(3)    Then identify three people you could approach to ask your questions. Choose a friend, a family member, and a colleague.

(4)    Finally, ask your questions.  But first tell them why you appreciate them (i.e., their perspective, ideas, their knowledge of you, or their expertise), and ask them if they would be willing to share their thoughts with you about something important to you. When they say “yes” – and they always will – then pose your questions to them.

(5)    Listen with humility.  Write down their answers. And thank them for their insights and their time.

What will happen? 

First, you will be amazed at how much people will appreciate your reaching out to them:  You will have shown respect and interest in them, and for that they will be grateful – even if they do not express it immediately. You will have deepened your relationship with them.

Second, you will be happy to have received help from people you care about and admire. And very importantly, you will have learned something valuable about an area of your life that matters deeply to you.

Your focus on what’s important to you, plus your humility, plus your questions will lead to increased momentum in your life.

Invite Your Family, Friends, and Colleagues to Join You

And if you want your colleagues, friends, and family to join you on your Monday Morning Momentum journey, send this post along to them.

Have a great week, and let me know how it goes!

And click here for last week’s Monday Morning Momentum post.

Comments

[David J. Pollay]

Hi Max,

It is great getting together each Monday! While others are dragging to work on Monday, we're focused from the start on something that will help us build momentum each week!

Keep me posted on your success!

Best to you,

David

[David J. Pollay]

Hi Lil!

Thanks for the post; I'm glad the formula is helpful to you. Enjoy the week!

Best to you,

David

[David J. Pollay]

Go Dey Go! Thanks for joining us each Monday! Let me know how it goes!

Best to you,

David

[Max]

David you've got my momentum going. Your questions will be very helpful.Max

[Lillian Merrill]

This is a great way to start Monday.
I loved the formula and I'll be sure and get my questions together. Thanks David.

[Dey]

Thanks for the post David!
List done...
Gotta go talk to my boss :)