Change Your Seat. Change Your Life.

Everyone in life should be known for at least one quote.  I have one that I would like to share with you.  But first let me tell you a story.

Day 1

Seven years ago I attended a three-day leadership conference in San Francisco.  The first morning I arrived a few minutes early.  There must have been a hundred people in the room.  Many people were already sitting in their seats, and others were drinking coffee at the back of the room.  But all had staked a claim on a seat for the day.  There was just one chair left; I grabbed a cup of coffee and headed for it. 

The first day of the conference was good, and it was interesting to talk with the people around my table. 

Day 2

The second day I left the house a little earlier so that I could sit in another part of the room and meet new people.  The roads were pretty clear that morning; I arrived thirty minutes ahead of time.  I put my bag down on a seat at a new table.  Then I went to the back of the room to get a cup of coffee.

Watching people arrive, I noticed that they were returning to the same seats that they had been sitting in the day before.  I thought it was a bit curious, but I kept to my coffee and conversation.  When it was time to take our seats, I looked around as I walked to my chair.  And guess what I saw?  Everyone in the room was in the same seat as they had been on day one, that is, except two people:  me, and a young man who was glaring at me for taking his seat.  Out of 100 people, I was the only one who changed his seat on purpose! 

As I had planned, I learned a lot from the people around my new table.  I had another good day. 

Day 3

Day three came and my plan was the same: I left early from home so that I could arrive in time to choose a new seat in another part of the conference room.  Unfortunately, traffic that morning was bumper to bumper; my buffer time was lost on the highway.  I arrived with five minutes to spare before the session started.

I ran up the hotel stairs and opened the door to our meeting room.  And what did I see?  Everyone in the room was back in the seat they had chosen on day one, including the unhappy young man whose seat I had taken the day prior.  He was smiling at me as I settled into my original seat.  He had the grin of victory all over his face.  And the people I had met on day one – again sitting next to me – said, “Welcome home.” Everyone was so pleased that they had kept their original seat.

It was at that moment I was reminded that most people don’t like to change.  Most people prefer to stay in the same seat in life:  They would rather be comfortable than extend themselves to meet new people and try new things. 

Quote

So now it’s time for my quote.  Here it is.  “Most people sit in the same seat and expect life to come to them.  Be different.  Change your seat and you will come to life.” 

Be willing to change your perspective.  Be interested in other people.  Be open to new ideas.  The most successful people I know constantly challenge themselves.  They talk to people with different ideas and they try new things. 

So today my question to you is, “Where are you sitting?”  Better than that, “Are you going to change your seat?”

Comments

[David J. Pollay]

Hi Patricia,

You make a great point about fear. We must stay comfortable with change, or we’ll try to avoid it all together.

Thanks Patricia!

Best to you,

David

[David J. Pollay]

Hi Mike,

Good for you. You can always tell your team members that you want to mix it up a little by having everyone sit in different seats.

Best to you,

David

[David J. Pollay]

Hi Lil,

Good for you! Let me know how it goes!

Best to you,

David

[David J. Pollay]

Hi Alberto,

Amen to your post! Great example!

Thanks!

Best to you,

David

[Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker]

Sitting in the same seat day after day of your life becomes a rut. Fear of change is a big one for many people. If we never change our zest for life slowly dies. Boredom sets in.

[mike pollay]

I loved this one. I attend mulitple meetings every week and it has always been instict for me to sit somewhere new every time for every meeting. But I will say I like to try and sit with the same people from my staff or friends. I could learn to change my company at these meetings and with your inspiration I will. (and not only just sit by myself)

[Lil]

David, Your quote is great. In thinking back, I realize that I have returned to the same seat time and time again. I'll keep your quote as a reminder to explore the unknown more often. Thanks again. Lil

[Alberto]

Hi David
Having moved cities and roles a dozen times over the past twenty years, I have observed similar situations... Routines and structure can be a virtue and they work... but once change is occurring, or about to occur, having the flexibility and the orientaiton that "change is good" makes it more effective to deal with it. Thanks for the quote today. Regards,
Alberto