Monday Morning Momentum™
From the time I entered kindergarten until my sophomore year in college I played football. It was my passion. And to get bigger and stronger, I began to lift weights the summer before my freshman year in high school. Over the next six years I worked out regularly. And I worked out hard. I put on muscle and I gained strength, and it came as a result of thousands of hours of training. It was not easy, but it was worth it.
One thing that always made me laugh during my training years was when someone who was not exercising regularly would tell me: “I don’t life weights because I don’t want to get too big.” I would just smile whenever someone said that to me. They had no idea that the problem they envisioned would not happen overnight. In fact, it would take more time and effort than they could ever have imagined. There may be other reasons not to lift weights, but “getting too big” is not one of the realistic ones. “Getting too big” is what I call a “good problem to have.” Your journey to bigness would involve regularly going to the gym, eating right, sleeping well and getting healthy. And if your muscles really did start popping out of your gym clothes, you could use the mirror to guide you on how much you needed to ease up on the weights.
There are problems we definitely don’t want, and there are problems that are good to have. We just need to look at the good problems differently.
I love being with my wife, Dawn, and my little girls, Eliana and Ariela. You can guess that I prefer not to travel more than I have to for business. So, I catch myself saying, “I don’t want to be a ‘road warrior’ who measures his success by the number of speaking engagements he has all over the country. I don’t want to be speaking all the time.” What is this? It’s a “good problem to have.” What’s a better way to look at it? I want my writing and speaking to be so much in demand that I can choose which of all those available speaking dates I want to accept and which ones I can say no to (even though I am grateful for all the opportunities).
Too much money?
And here’s one I hear a lot of people saying: “I don’t want to make a lot of money if it means sacrificing the good things in my life.” What is this? Yes, it’s another good problem to have. Here’s another way to look at it: I want to be so good at what I love doing that people will pay me handsomely to do it. I’ll then continue to do what I love, and I’ll have all the time I want to spend with family and friends.
Your good problems
Now, what do you say negatively about the things that could possibly make your life even more wonderful? What are your good problems to have? How could you change your view of them? Consider re-orienting your imagination from the downside of success to the upside of opportunity. Another approach to the same issue could produce an eventual breakthrough for you.
Some problems are good to have.
Copyright 2009 David J. Pollay
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